My Marriage...

I was just reading over some of my posts from last year, when things really started to fall apart between my wife and I. That made me think of where we are today and I realized that I wanted to share some of the "good" that's been going on in my marriage since December.

Let me just say from the outset that things are going very well between my wife and I since mid December. Sometimes when I stop and think about it, I'm not sure I know what exactly has changed. I guess the most important piece is that through the help of our counselor, we've been able to recognize that we each have basically the same priorities in life right now and once we were both able to see this in the other, this opened the door to the process of recommitting our selves to each other and our family as a whole. Right now, three whole months later, I can say that this process is almost completed. I feel our commitment level to the marriage and family is 110% right now and that just feels absolutely wonderful! We're still going to have our disagreements and all, but with the commitment base built back up again, we find ourselves quickly working through our differences and moving forward. Where as before, we would really get bogged down in the differences and would seem to spin our wheels and go nowhere.

I know for a fact that my Zen practice has a lot to do with my attitude change towards my wife and family as a whole. Acceptance has been the key. Accepting what we have together for what it is (not perfect or fairy-tale), and being able to work with where we are today to built something we both want and can be happy with tomorrow.